Coming Out Of the Closet

By Jonathan

A note: To get the most from this article, you really need to click the links and watch the video. I know that takes up time, but honestly, if you’re reading this already, you probably have nothing else to do right now…

The time has come for me to get something off my chest that’s been weighing on me for a long time. It’s a simple truth about me that I have been afraid to reveal to the world. I have good reasons for being reluctant. The world is not a kind place for people like me, in many circles we are openly mocked, ridiculed, and even hated. Even where there is a so-called acceptance of my kind it is usually coupled with a degree of suspicion or sometimes pity.

The discrimination and derision that people in my shoes face makes many of us afraid to be who we truly are, and to fully express ourselves in society. We hide behind a mask, a filter, and we self-censor. This is not cowardice, this is prudence. Many who have opened themselves up have faced vicious and relentless attacks on their person, from bullying to harassment to full-blown characters assassination. Some have even lost their jobs.

But I can’t stay silent anymore. I need to be honest with the world. I must speak up.

I am an anti-feminist.

Austin Powers: I also like to live dangerously.
Austin Powers: I also like to live dangerously.

But how can that be? Isn’t feminism about equality? Are you against equality? You must really hate women, eh?

Hell no. Nothing could be further from the truth. Actually feminism has nothing do with equality, and very little to do with women. Not nice, healthy women anyway. Feminism is about the unmitigated hatred of men and everything male. It always has been and always will be.

Don’t believe me? I’ll let some well-known, even FAMOUS feminists speak for themselves:

“The nuclear family must be destroyed… Whatever its ultimate meaning, the break-up of families now is an objectively revolutionary process.” ~ Linda Gordon

“I feel that ‘man-hating’ is an honorable and viable political act, that the oppressed have a right to class-hatred against the class that is oppressing them.” ~ Robin Morgan, Ms. Magazine Editor.

“I haven’t the faintest notion what possible revolutionary role white heterosexual men could fulfill, since they are the very embodiment of reactionary-vested-interest-power. But then, I have great difficulty examining what men in general could possibly do about all this. In addition to doing the shitwork that women have been doing for generations, possibly not exist? No, I really don’t mean that. Yes, I really do.” ~ Robin Morgan

“We can’t destroy the inequities between men and women until we destroy marriage.” ~ Robin Morgan

“I claim that rape exists any time sexual intercourse occurs when it has not been initiated by the woman, out of her own genuine affection and desire.” ~ Robin Morgan

“To call a man an animal is to flatter him; he’s a machine, a walking dildo” ~ Valerie Solanas, Author of The SCUM Manifesto

“Life in this society being, at best, an utter bore and no aspect of society being at all relevant to women, there remains to civic-minded, responsible, thrill-seeking females only to overthrow the government, eliminate the money system, institute complete automation, and destroy the male sex.” ~ Valerie Solanas, SCUM founder (Society for Cutting Up Men.)

“The male is a domestic animal which, if treated with firmness…can be trained to do most things.” ~ Jilly Cooper, SCUM (Society For Cutting Up Men, started by Valerie Solanas)

“Politically, I call it rape whenever a woman has sex and feels violated.”  ~ Catherine MacKinnon

“All sex, even consensual sex between a married couple, is an act of violence perpetrated against a woman.” ~ Catherine MacKinnon

“The more famous and powerful I get the more power I have to hurt men.” ~ Sharon Stone

“If life is to survive on this planet, there must be a decontamination of the Earth. I think this will be accompanied by an evolutionary process that will result in a drastic reduction of the population of males.” ~ Mary Daly, former Professor at Boston College, 2001.

“I believe that women have a capacity for understanding and compassion which man structurally does not have, does not have it because he cannot have it. He’s just incapable of it.” ~ Barbara Jordan; Former Congresswoman

“The simple fact is that every woman must be willing to be identified as a lesbian to be fully feminist”  ~ National NOW Times, January, 1988

“We are, as a sex, infinitely superior to men.” ~ Elizabeth Cady Stanton

That should get you started. Trust me, it’s just the tip of the iceberg. In the interest of brevity I’d like to focus on just the last one because it pretty much sums up the true purpose of feminism. It is a female supremacist movement which will stop at nothing to ensure that women receive privileges and special treatment often (and preferably) at the expense of men. To paraphrase Marylin French (a feminist author and advisor to Al Gore’s presidential campaign): All feminists are hateful bigots, and that’s all they are.

But isn’t that a little extreme?

In short, nope.

Oh I am sure there are some women out there calling themselves feminists who don’t hate men, and don’t believe in female supremacy, but you know what? They are rare and once they discover what feminism is really about they stop calling themselves feminists in a hurry. Like this amazing girl:

But that intelligent, wonderful young lady is like a unicorn. She is so rare she may as well be mythical. Most people who identify as feminists are so intellectually bankrupt and incapable of rational thought or discussion that any attempt to debate them will invariably result in you being shamed into silence.

At the risk of sounding like (the disappointing idiot) Obama, let me be very clear: Feminists are hateful, misandric, evil. vindictive, entitled, dangerous people. Whether through indoctrination in their university women’s studies class (which should be called “male hating class”), or because they are otherwise damaged and unstable, they are completely devoid of all logic, reason (logic and reason are misogynist and count as domestic violence), compassion and common decency. They are blinded by ideology and rage and will stop at nothing to win. And they don’t care who they hurt in the process, in fact the more people they hurt (men especially) the better.

To be a feminist you either have to be a colossally stupid person, or a colossally horrible person and more likely some combination of the two. There is no such thing as a “nice” feminist, or an “equality” feminist. If you truly believe in equality you are not a feminist. Feminists don’t believe in equality, they believe in female supremacy, and work tirelessly to enshrine that supremacy into law – usually, and preferably, at the expense of men.

And don’t even get me started on male feminists. Male feminists are like Jewish Nazis, committing crimes against their own, their fathers, their sons and themselves in the hope that they might get a little pickle tickle from feminist women now and then. Too bad feminist women don’t like feminist men much. Male feminists are loathsome, miserable creatures.

Why are you so worked up over this? Aren’t feminists just a fringe group of crazies?

If only that were true. Sadly, and tragically, feminist ideology and lies have infiltrated every aspect of our lives, our governments and our society. Just yesterday the president of the United States gave his state of the union address and repeated several feminist lies (yes, Obama is a feminist), most obviously the myth that there is a wage gap between men and women. There isn’t, and even noted man-hating feminist Hanna Rosin (author of “The End Of Men”) debunked it. When even feminists are correcting feminist dogma, it’s time to stop listening to it.

It really doesn’t matter that intelligent, sane, succesful women reject feminism. They aren’t the ones controlling the dialog and the politics or even the pop-culture narrative which is of course a non-stop barrage of “man bad, woman good!” or alternately, “woman smart, man dumb!”. Feminists, acting with calculated malice, succeed in creating a misandric society that is overtly hostile towards men.

But make no mistake; real women, women of substance and character, do reject feminism, and they do so with conviction.

“I mean, all the feminists I have met have been so nasty and so hostile. I go ‘ooh, hoo-hoo-hoo,’ you know, I’m not joining your club, you know.” ~ Joni Mitchell, (appearing on CBC, which cut these comments out of the broadcast for, er, some reason…)

“‘The feminists hate me, don’t they? And I don’t blame them. For I hate feminism. It is poison.” ~ Margaret Thatcher

”I’m not a feminist – I hail men, I love men. I celebrate American male culture, and beer, and bars and muscle cars.” ~ Lady Gaga

‘I think it’s great to be a sexy, beautiful woman who can fuck her man after she makes him dinner. There’s a stigma around feminism that’s a little bit man-hating. And I don’t promote hatred, ever.” ~ Lady Gaga

”No, I wouldn’t call myself a feminist at all really.” ~ Judi Dench

In fact more and more women are waking up, finding their humanity, and recovering from feminism. Incredibly, even former radical lesbian separatists are seeing the light. We can take heart in knowing that there are many wonderful, wise anti-feminist women out there, though feminists do their best to drown them out so you won’t hear them.

So why the hell do I care about any of this anyway?

That’s a fair question and I’ll do my best to clear that up.

I have always been vaguely aware of the misandry present in our culture. The incessant portrayal of dumb men and smart women on nearly every TV show and commercial did not go unnoticed by be, but at the time it didn’t really register as a problem. I used to think it was funny. After all, if a man can’t laugh at himself he has a problem, right?

And I might have gone on being vaguely aware but not entirely concerned had a couple of things not happened. The first was that I was on the receiving end of vicious and unprovoked attacks by a pair of so-called “social justice warriors” on Twitter. Not only did they call me some pretty horrible names, but they made some disturbing threats against me regarding my future employment, and capped it up by telling me to cut my balls off and video it so they could watch.

Frankly these two scared the crap out of me. And in a twist of irony, I started doing my research on them and their ilk and ended up developing some strong convictions in place of what were once just vague ideals. They spurred me on and made me into their enemy where before I was just a spectator. If you’ll excuse the hyperbole, it was like the super hero who unwittingly creates his own nemesis.

The second event that happened is far more tragic. A family member committed suicide to escape an abusive relationship. Though he was not a blood relative, and in truth I barely knew him, it nonetheless triggered something deep a passionate within me. The injustice that he suffered, and that his family now suffers is abhorrent. And yes, feminism is at least indirectly responsible.

Let me make a few other things clear.

I am not an MRA. MHRA, PUA, MGTOW, or any other increasingly cumbersome acronym you can make up. I don’t belong to or identify with any group, activist or otherwise. I am an individual and I represent only myself.

That’s not to say I don’t support these groups. I do. That doesn’t mean I always agree with every last person involved, but more often than not I do. I support A Voice for Men and reject categorically the ridiculous notion that it is in any way a hate group or supportive of hate. Only an unthinking moron who hasn’t actually read the site, or a morally corrupt liar could possibly draw that conclusion. Sometimes the content is in your face or rough around the edges? So what? Sometimes certain commenters make me cringe, but they are not the voice of the site itself. My only real criticism is that Paul Elam has an unfortunate tendency to attack people who are otherwise on his side when he disagrees with them on a minor point. I wish he wouldn’t do that.

I support MGTOW, though it’s not relevant for me I understand why it exists, and had my life gone differently perhaps I’d even be on that path.

And I even support the PUAs, the pick-up artists. Though I cannot imagine ever counting myself among them (it’s just not my style) they provide a necessary dose of cold, hard truth that men and women need to hear. It’s ugly, it’s raw, and it sure as hell isn’t nice, but this is the beast that feminism bred. Plus it’s funny as hell to see them rile up the feminists who inevitably respond with threats of violence or death or express their desire to punch someone. I thought only the menz were violent, eh?

And as for you, feminists: be advised that I am not a miserable shut-in living in my mother’s basement. I couldn’t possibly do that because my mother doesn’t have a basement. I don’t play World Of Warcraft, I actually find it extremely boring and tedious but my fiancée loves the game and (used) to play it regularly. Speaking of my fiancée, we’ve been together for over three years now. We live together in a beautiful condo on the west side of Vancouver. Luckily it’s a secure building so when you dox me, I’ll still feel safe. We have two kittens and more aquarium fish than I can count. They keep breeding non-stop and thus far none of the females have demanded abortions which is too bad because population control is becoming a bit of an issue. My fiancée plays more video games than I do and doesn’t give a flying fuck about tropes, she does however sometimes buy me new games for no good reason whatsoever, probably because of internalized misogyny or she’s just nice. She’s a strong woman too, in fact she’s the primary breadwinner right now while I work to build up my freelancing business. I’m never bitter because I can’t get laid, it’s pretty much never a problem. I do have a slight belly right now because she’s such a good cook, but don’t worry, so am I and I have to complete with her for access to the kitchen. Finally, I am very satisfied with my penis size, it’s not at all micro.

In short, you can take your tired, boring, regurgitated shaming tactics and shove them up your ass. They won’t work on me.

So why put myself out there? Why open myself up for abuse?

I realise that eventually feminists are going to find this article. Probably sooner than later. It’s going to make them mad and I am going to be hit with an avalanche of abuse and vitriol.

I am also recognizant of the fact that my blog is integrated with my business to some degree and I may have clients who take offense to things I wrote here.

In response to the first issue, I’m ready for it. Bring it on. As far as the second goes, if I have clients who think less of me because I have chosen to speak the truth and speak it frankly then they are free to move on. I won’t miss them, I am not interested in doing business with anyone who could read through what I have posted here, and the content I have linked to and not be onside. I have lost friends for speaking the truth, I am not scared to lose a client or two as well. New clients will take their place.

The simple fact is that I cannot remain silent any longer, nor can I rely on short 140 character bursts on Twitter to express myself on this topic. I will leave you with the quote that inspired me to write this article tonight:

Self censorship is often more insidious than legal censorship. To silence oneself for fear of offending others kills free speech. #Newsnight

— Jamie Bartlett (@JamieJBartlett) January 29, 2014

Update: After publishing this article I shared it with my mom. As it turns out she thought it was excellent. She came over for a visit the other day and while we were talking she told me that she had tried to leave a comment expressing her support but that she had accidentally shared the post/commented on it on Facebook instead. Apparently that did not go over well with some of her friends and she got a first hand taste of feminist vitriol and intolerance of dissent (also known as facts and logic).

I believe it was through my mom’s Facebook post that a friend of hers (and mine) found this post. That friend is a staunch ideological feminist and I knew better than to try to argue with her. When dealing with an ideologue, it doesn’t matter how thoroughly you refute their points they’ll just pretend you didn’t and declare themselves the winner. You have to understand that feminism is basically a religion. It’s based on theories and fantasy. To a religious person, their beliefs are self-proving. Nonetheless I gave it a try, and as I expected we ended up going in circles.

At some point that friend shared the post with one of her friends who is also a hardcore (that is, crazy) feminist. She posted under a fake name and opened up her comment by expressing her reluctance (yeah right) to debate with me, for fear it would be like playing chess with a pigeon and I would just move all the pieces and shit on the board. She then proceeded to shit on the board with an incomprehensible spewing of condescending vitriol and weak ad hominem attacks. Declaring herself the winner, she then posted a link to a stupid YouTube video under a different fake name (she’s apparently a former web designer but doesn’t know how IP addresses work). I deleted her comment due to its abusive nature, and she immediately tried to post it five more times. When that failed she emailed it to me instead. I responded to her email privately, and asked her not to contact me again. She ignored this request and has since sent me two more emails. All the while she failed to refute anything I said. Ironically, given her behavior, all she did is provide a real life example and confirm what I already knew to be true about feminists. The hate was strong in that one.

I made the decision to delete all of the comments (and my own responses) from the aforementioned friend for a couple of reasons.

  1. It wasn’t going to go anywhere. You cannot argue with indoctrinated ideologues because they don’t deal in reality, they deal in a fantasy world where the facts don’t matter, only feelings do.
  2. I did it out of respect for my mom. As I understand it, my mom had pleaded with her not to comment on my blog in the first place. I didn’t want to be responsible for any unnecessary tension between them.

Which brings me to the reason for this update. Last night I received a comment on this post that was so far beyond the realm of human decency I don’t even know what to say. I considered very carefully whether to publish it or not, and ultimately decided to sleep on it and re-visit is with a clear head. It was with that clear head that I decided to respond by updating this article instead. Here is the comment I received:

Vindictive Feminist Comment
Vindictive Feminist Comment

Now let’s set aside the fact that this person has a very bizarre definition of “outsmarted“. The question I have to ask is this: if it’s so easy to “outsmart” me, why didn’t you even try? Seriously. This person did not even make the slightest effort to refute anything I said. The absolute best they could do is make personal attacks against me and my relationship with my fiancée and her family (who are all wonderful people who I love and care about and who care about me, they are *my* family too).

What an outrageous act of cowardice and cruelty.

At first I thought it was just a clever troll who did their research, but I traced the IP address and it is indeed local. Thus the odds are heavily in favour of this being someone I know. I have no way of knowing for sure who it is, but I have my suspicions, and so does my fiancée. It’s disturbing to think that this person(s) has been tracking me on Twitter (though they don’t follow me…).

And that, my friends, is what feminism is all about.

If you enjoyed this post, please share it. If you’re really brave you’ll do what my mom did and share it with your friends on Facebook and quickly discover which of them are man-hating ideologues. Do it. For science. Also, follow me on Twitter or sign up for my mailing list for more of my sardonic ranting (and also for photography and other happy stuff sometimes).